Shereen Salama: The Best Of You

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Shereen Salama: The Best Of You

Learn English with Shereen Salama’s Speech. Shereen Salama, an Ambulatory Care Pharmacist, spoke at MAS Youth Talk about being our best inside and outside of the home.


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“The best of you are the best to your family.” Shereen Salama

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The best of you are the best to your family, because your true character comes out at home. When you’ve had a long day at work, or a long day at school, you face a lot of difficulties, a lot of struggle. You’ve had a hard day, and you’ve tucked it in so no one sees it of you, no one sees the flaws, no one sees the weaknesses. But then you go home and you unleash the monster. You unleash the thing that’s been building within you the entire day. And who do you unleash it to? The people that you should care about most.

 

I know you’re all here for Amr Salamah and I’m here for Amr Salamah too. But 15 minutes inshallah and we’ll be done together. As was mentioned, I actually have been looking for the answer to this question for the past couple months. And it’s that a lot of people on the outside look at you thinking that you are something.

You know, you’re a youth director, you’re a pharmacy student. I’m sure many of you are MSA members, you lead things in your Masjid, you’re in Islamic organizations. You just graduated from college and now you’re a doctor or you’re an engineer or you’re a teacher. You just grew a beard and now people are calling you Sheikh.

You just wore the hijab and people are calling you Sheikhah. And you know, sometimes it’s kind of hard to reconcile the fact that all of these people are looking at me thinking that I am something. Attributing this status to me, you know, thinking in their mind that I am superhuman. Or thinking in their mind that I’m angelic or thinking that I’m better than them.

And the question comes, well what happens when the people see something of me but when I look at myself in the mirror I see someone completely different? What happens when the person that people see is not who I actually believe that I am? And how do we reconcile between them? So I hope that this is a struggle that I’m not the only one facing.

Does anyone kind of feel me on this? All right, alhamdulillah, that’s good. I actually have a story that kind of just goes along with this. One of my halka students actually came up to me the other day, actually this was a couple months ago. And she was like, so Shereen, when you go home, do you just eat dates and drink Zem-Zem?

And I was like, no, homegirl, I eat cereal in the morning and I eat burgers for lunch and I eat koshari for dinner. You know, I’m normal. You know, just because I’m at the Masjid doesn’t mean that I eat something different or I breathe a different type of oxygen than you do. And unfortunately, you know, when we work in these types of organizations or in our Masjid, people start to look at you and think that you truly are not human.

Or that there’s, you know, something superhuman about you. So that’s kind of the thing that I want to address today is what do we do when we feel like the person in the mirror is different than the person everyone else sees? So subhanAllah, you know, something that we have to do is first try to understand whether those people are two different people.

Whether the person that you see in the mirror is truly different than the person that your community sees. Or whether you’re just being too harsh on yourself and you truly are amazing. Or whether you’re thinking of yourself too highly and you really should start to reconsider some of the things you’ve done.

And so I kind of came up with a litmus test as to what you can ask yourself to try to understand whether those two people are really two people or if they’re one. And the first question that you can ask yourself is, and I want you guys to think about this, if I were to go up to someone in your community whom you work with, or if I were to go up to someone, you know, on your Shura in the MSA, or someone in your Masjid that you work with, or someone that you’ve mentored in a halaqah, or someone that you work with at work, you know, your co-resident, or whatever it may be.

And I were to ask them, you know, tell me about Shereen. Like what is Shereen like? What does Shereen, when you’re with Shereen, how do you feel? When these people are with you, how do they feel when you’re around them? And think of that answer. If I were to go up to someone at work or someone that you work with, what would they describe you as?

Okay, think about that in your mind. Now if I were to go and ask your sibling at home, or ask your mother, or ask your father, or ask your brother, what is Shereen like to you? How do you feel when Shereen is around you? How does Shereen make you feel? Do you get a different answer? Is it that the people outside think something of you, and when you treat them, you treat them a certain way, yet you go home and you treat the people at home differently?

And if you find that those two answers are different, then know that there is a problem. And again, I wrote this because I need the answer, and I’m saying this to myself before anyone, my mother’s in the audience and she can attest to this. But I’m sure many of us can look within ourselves and say, you know what, those two answers are different.

The person that I am on the outside is different than the one I am at home. The person that the community sees of me is different than the one that my mother sees of me. And the Prophet, sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, told us, he said, خيركم خيركم لأهلي وأنا خيركم لأهلي He said that the best among you are the best to your family, and I am the best to my family.

Why does the Hadith not say خيركم خيركم the best of you are the best to your communities, or the best of you are the ones who give the best speeches, or the best of you are the ones who give the best حلقات, or the best of you are the best at work? Because it’s really easy to be good outside. It’s really easy to be nice to the people at work because if you’re not, they’re going to subtweet you on Twitter.

And if you’re not, they’re going to think you’re terrible, and they’re going to have this illusion of who you are, and they’re going to talk bad about you. But if you do something bad to your mom, she’s not going to disown you, I hope. You know, if you’re disrespecting your sister, she’s still going to be your sister.

But if you do something bad on the outside, you can potentially ruin a relationship. And so that’s why it’s easy for us to be good on the outside, but it’s hard to be good at home. And that’s why the Hadith goes that the best of you are the best to your family, because your true character comes out at home.

When you’ve had a long day at work, or a long day at school, you face a lot of difficulties, a lot of struggle. You’ve had a hard day, and you’ve tucked it in so no one sees it of you, no one sees the flaws, no one sees the weaknesses. But then you go home and you unleash the monster. You unleash the thing that’s been building within you the entire day.

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